I became so convinced of this that my whole personality started to revolve around it. Instead, my recklessness towards sex was seen as part of my personality it was part of who I was.
#Hyper sexual professional#
Even when I sought professional help as I got older, not once did anyone suggest that I could have hypersexuality as a response to my trauma. Nevertheless, there was a distinct oversight, especially by medical professionals, of how this experience would shape me. This isn’t to place blame on my family - abuse of any kind is difficult for families to process. I seemed fine, so I must be have been fine, right? I suspect this was due to several factors: chiefly, that it was the 90s and paedophilia wasn’t as widely discussed, and secondly, because everyone assumed that I was too young to remember it. The thing is, once his abuse came to light and my family began to move on with their lives, never once did anyone consider how much it would impact me. No doubt survivors reading this will know that line all too well. He groomed me into believing that what he was doing was a sign of his affection – I was special, unlike anyone else. There was no violence nor a sense of threat his approach was one of conditioning.
When I was a child, I was sexually abused by our neighbour’s eldest son. My recklessness towards sex was seen as part of my personality it was part of who I was Plus, the numerous misconceptions about hypersexuality only worsen how it is seen: you may see us as sex addicts rather than survivors, who are in need of help and healing. 2įar too many people are still unaware that hypersexuality can be a response to abuse. 1 Researchers have acknowledged that the term itself is vague and is often misinterpreted. Hypersexuality has broadly been defined as “‘excesses’ of sexual behaviour”, which can be accompanied by social and personal distress. Hypersexuality is much more than an addiction to sex.įor example, if I told you that hypersexuality is a common aftereffect of sexual abuse, would you be surprised? If you were to hear the term hypersexuality, what would you think it meant? An increased libido, or maybe an addiction to sex? These are easy assumptions to make - after all, according to Wikipedia, hypersexuality is “extremely frequent or suddenly increased libido”.Īlthough it’s true that hypersexuality does involve an increased sex drive, it’s much more complex than that. Content warning: this piece contains a discussion of trauma due to sexual abuse and an account of child sexual abuse.
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